There are some women out there that like to act as if they don’t care about being in relationships or dating. They have built up a wall that they feel will keep them from getting hurt, unaware that they are playing directly into the male player’s hand. These type of women have started saying to men that they are not looking for a relationship and are the type of ”Woman Wanting a Casual Relationship”.
Why Would He Respect You Now
Ladies, when you say to a man that you are not looking for a relationship and want to keep things casual; you are giving him the green light to treat you with all kinds of disrespect throughout your “Casual Relationship”. Those words are music to a “player’s” ears.
Her: I’m not looking for a relationship; let’s just keep things casual for now.
Him: Thinking… Yes, Jackpot so I can hang out with you, eventually sleep with you and not give up my other women or I can go find another woman.
Him: Okay, if that’s what you want.
Ladies, what you don’t understand is that you just dismissed all of the effort that he was going to put into getting to know you and possibly build something serious with you, and said it is okay for him to just see you as a “play thing.” In his mind he can put the minimum amount of work towards you and only do just enough to get you to trust him until you give up the sex. You may not realize it but from the time you used the word “casual”, you became his “drive by” woman that he will stop by to see every now and then, have sex with, and then get back on the road to someone or something that he feels is more worth his time (Click this link because… Now you are stuck Waiting On a Relationship That May Never Happen ). When you tell a man that you are a “Woman Wanting a Casual Relationship” you have lost your worth in his eyes and will never gain back the respect that a man would have had if he was made to work for your affection.
It’s Not Cheating
Whoa, Whoa, Whoa, lady pump your breaks! Why are you mad that your friend told you (or you found out on your own) that your “casual friend” was out to dinner and kissing on another woman. What gives you the right to get upset with him when you gave him permission to do whatever it is he wants to do? What did you think a “casual relationship” was? Just because you caught feelings doesn’t mean he has. Also, don’t think that you will turn this casual relationship into a “Real Relationship”. Why would he have respect for you now, when you already told him with your casualness that he didn’t have to respect you?
This man has his cake and is enjoying eating it without any repercussions thanks to you being a “Woman Wanting a Casual Relationship”. He is living the life at your expense because someone else has hurt you and you decided that the way to not get hurt again is to not get into another relationship. (Whispering) Hey guess what? A casual relationship is still a relationship and while you’re running to nowhere fast you are still being hurt by this person and you gave them permission to hurt you. Truth is, 9 times out of 10 times the “Woman Wanting a Casual Relationship” is going to catch feelings for him because he is showing her just enough attention to keep his drive by sex partner somewhat happy.
Why Can’t You Come By
You have been in this “Casual Relationship” for a while now but you are starting to see a lot less of your casual male counterpart. You may call, but he won’t answer. You may text, and he may not respond until hours later. He may even make an appearance at your doorstep, but won’t stay long and may not even sleep with you because he is in a rush. You can ask him if he has met someone else that he is spending all the time that use to be yours. He may tell you the truth harshly to put an end to your questioning.
Yes, he has found someone that he respects and he is now leaving you behind for the relationship that this lady requires. You see when he first approached you; it was with the respect of you being a lady that he would have liked to get to know better. Once you told him you were a “Woman Wanting a Casual Relationship” you became his “play thing.” Now he is no longer playing a game with a hurt childish woman, but is looking to build a relationship with his new lady.
What some women don’t realize is that once you give him permission to be CASUAL he will do just that. A man will do what he is allowed to get away with and by you telling him that you are a “Woman Wanting a Casual Relationship” you have lost 99.99% of a chance of turning what you two don’t have into a real relationship. Ladies please demand the respect that you deserve from these men and stop letting them get away with treating you any ole kinda way! If he won’t treat you right then find someone who will. If you are hurt from a past relationship then don’t give another guy permission to treat you wrong, wait until you’re ready and give him permission to love you right. Ladies, know your worth!
Ladies/men have you ever been in a casual relationship? If so please leave a comment letting us know how it work out for you. Whether you have or haven’t been in a casual relationship feel free to leave a comment with your thoughts on this article.