Some psychologist or person who has way too many degrees and no social skills has come up with the idea that there is a something wrong with kids being picked last for a team or children’s sports shouldn’t have scores because losing and/or being picked last is bad for children’s ego. It is because of this that kids are losing their competitive edge and are more than happy settling for the last place trophies. Parents “Let Your Kids Fail” and help them to build confidence and healthy competitiveness so that they will be able to function in the world as teens and adults.
These Kids Aren’t Even Trying to Win
I went to a friend’s kid’s game and watched these little non-athletic snotty nose children running around looking like big gnats with sports jerseys on. I didn’t know what the score was so I asked someone if the score board was broken to which they said “No, at this age we don’t keep scores for the kids because they get upset if they think that they lost.” I couldn’t believe what I was hearing so I asked, “ Is that why a bunch of kids aren’t even trying?” To which another parent said “This is a development league, they are just learning the game and having fun.”
Parents, how can you build your child’s competitiveness, develop your child and teach your child about good sportsmanship if the score is not kept and there is no reason to be competitive? They say that “life isn’t about winning or losing but how you play the game”, but these kids aren’t even trying to play the game. Parents, it’s okay to “Let Your Kids Fail” because that is how they will build character or that driving force within themselves to do their best.
Last Place Trophy
What in the Ham Eggs and Cheese is a last place trophy and where did this crap come from? How do you go DEFEATED for an entire season and still get a trophy? To me, this is hurting the kids in the long wrong and giving them a sense of entitlenent. Whatever happened to trying your best and earning accolades? I heard one kid say to another who was on the defeated team “Dag y’all didn’t win a single game” to which the defeated kid said “So, I still got a trophy!”
The thought that this kid was happy to lose every game because he still got a trophy is a sign of what is wrong with the kids today. A lot of kids use to have society as a wakeup call, but now society is one of the main causes of the problem. Society has set the standard that makes kids think that they are owed something from the world. All because society won’t “Let Your Kids Fail” the teens today don’t have the work ethic that teens had even 10 years ago and are happy just “being” without being a part of something great. It seems to me that mediocrity is the new standard of excellence. It is a sad day on earth when more attention is paid to mediocrity instead of to those who despite the obstacles and challenges choose to be outstanding.
You Are Not Entitled to Jack
I am so tired of this generation of slackers feeling like they should be rewarded for doing nothing or just enough to make it look like they tried. Some of these kids are so spoiled that they feel they should be paid for shoveling the snow at the house they live in. Some kids feel that doing household chores is beneath them and I blame this on the parents. Parents need to step up and let their children know that no one is going to give them the things that they want in life.
Instead of adding to their feelings of being entitled, how about making them earn the things that they want. If the parents keep celebrating mediocrity their kids most likely will be living with them well into their thirties because they have no reason nor do they know how to strive for better. This is “The Lasting Effect” (Click this link to read a previous post called The Lasting Effect) of the parents and society stripping the kids of their healthy competitive edge and will to do better.
Parents, society as a whole has begun to coddle the kids for way too long. We are failing our youth and giving them the mindset that doing “just enough” to get by is acceptable because in the past they have been celebrated for their laziness. Then people are wondering why their kids fail out of college or reach adulthood and don’t have the strong work ethic that is needed to survive. It is because of this that you need to “Let Your Kids Fail.” So, if no other reason, you won’t be stuck with a slacker living with you during your golden years.