When you are in a committed relationship you never expect your significant other to become romantically or emotionally involved with another person (unless your in one of those open relationships kind of couples, which opens a whole new can of worms). The hurt that you feel when the truth of infidelity comes out has been described by some as taking a hammer and smashing your heart with it. Here are five reasons why being “In a Relationship with a Cheater” may not work.
5) How You Got Them is How You Will Lose Them
Well let’s just get rid of the obvious reason, if you got into your relationship by breaking up someone else’s relationship don’t be surprised if that same person that cheated with you now cheats on you. In this case you knew the person was a cheater before the two of you got into a relationship so now you will always have in the back of your mind the question of if and when they will cheat on you.
4) The Serial Cheater
This is the person who has either a job that is in the limelight, a huge salary, has their good looks going for them or a combination of the three. This person will continue to cheat as a way to define themselves because even with the great job, looks, or status they have a low self esteem and put more importance on the number of conquests rather than finding the right one to share it all with.
3) The Accidental Cheater
This is the person who got caught cheating who really has no remorse and only keeps saying that it was an accident. I’m not sure how you accidentally fall into or on top of an appendage but for some reason this makes sense to them. Continuing a relationship with this person will almost always lead to more heartache because the lack of remorse that this person has will spill over into other areas of your relationship.
2) The Bored Cheater
I have know people who felt under appreciated because their spouse was always working or doing some type of extra curricular activity besides them. This cheater will fall for any person who pays them even the smallest amount of attention. This relationship may not work because the person who was cheated on may feel slighted because while they were out working hard to provide for their family their significant other was out having some fun of their own. In this case you have two people who do not feel appreciated that will always blame the other for the indiscretions.
1) The Revenge Cheater
All cheating is bad but this to me is the worst type of cheater (if you can say there is one). This is bad because this person was cheated on but supposedly forgave their partner for stepping out on their relationship. Only later to cheat on the previous cheater as a way of payback. This is what I call premeditated cheating because this person was just waiting for the correct opportunity to get paybacks. This person feels like so what I cheated you cheated first so get over it. In the Revenge Cheater case this relationship may not work because of the childish tit for tat that may continue throughout the rest of the relationship until someone finally has enough and calls it quits.
I know that every relationship is different and what works for some will not work for others but the one thing that most people agree on is that cheating is not acceptable. When I hear men or women say that “All men cheat” all I can think is that this person is using this as an excuse to cheat or on the flip side the woman is making an excuse for their cheating partner. To me once you cheat on your partner you lose the trust that you once had. Once you lose the trust there is no more relationship which should be a reason to end it, because from this point on it will be hard to stay “In a Relationship With a Cheater”.
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