Years ago when women took care of the home and men went to work to make the money that kept the lights on, life was so much simpler. Everyone knew their roles, each person handled their business, and marriages lasted forever. When did society get so twisted that a woman feels that it is an insult to cook for a man? Fast forward about 50 years and a lot of women are not only refusing to take care of the home, but there are some who won’t do something as simple as fixing their man a sandwich.
Disclaimer: ladies please don’t complain about this being a one sided article because that is exactly what it is. We also wrote an article on these lazy, immature, selfish men that are out there as well that can be found on this site or by clicking this link So what she makes more money than you.
Chivalrous man and selfish woman
I have heard friends talk about going out on first dates and the woman expected the man to open the car door, restaurant door, and pay for the entire date because they were the man. While on that same date the woman divulges that she doesn’t like to cook or clean. Some ladies went as far as to say that any man that marries them will just have to accept the fact that they won’t be cooking and that they will have to hire a maid to clean because she won’t be doing that either. How can you in your right mind even make your lips up to form that stupid sentence and say it with a straight face? It is people like this that make it hard for good woman out there.
It is these types of ladies that say that there are no good men out there. Now how can I say this nicely…? No stupid, the problem is that you scare the good men off with your selfishness and laziness. How can you say that you expect men to do the things “that men use to do”, when you are not willing to do the things “that women use to do” to get/keep a man. For those of you who were lucky enough to get a man to marry you, if you don’t change he will get tired of your selfishness too and you will be divorced soon. I know that somewhere there are a few ladies reading this rolling their eyes and that want to stop reading because they think I am talking about them. Well guess what, I am talking to you and your selfish, going to be single forever, and too lazy to fix your man a sandwich self.
I make more money than you so do what I say
Now let’s talk about the “career women” who are too busy for relationships because they are trying to prove to their male counterparts that they are just as good as them. These ladies take on the male hardness/brashness and think that they don’t have a man because men are intimidated by them. The real reason you don’t have a man is because you act like a jerk and talk down to the men who make less money than you do. You throw your money around at men your dating like you’re a rapper in a strip club and then when the man drops your successful butt you claim that he couldn’t handle your success. Just because you make more money than your spouse doesn’t mean that you are above fixing your man a sandwich. You shouldn’t be so focused on your career that your home life takes the back seat or even worst doesn’t exist.
I know plenty of women who are successful in their companies and maintain their “softness” while still finding time to take care of the home (I’m not talking about you) and treat their man like a man. I’m talking about the women who feel that because they make more money than their spouse that they are better than them. A man who makes more money than his wife is no better than her, just as a woman who makes more money than her husband is no better than her man. Remember, I’m not talking about the ability to buy material things. What I am talking about is the roles that each of you play in the relationship and your attitude towards the importance of your spouse’s roles.
Neither of you is more important than the other
Ideally a relationship should be 100/100 and each person should treat the other with respect. If one person likes to cook then the other should clean the kitchen. If you get home first or have the day off don’t wait for the other person to get home so they can start cooking. You get your butt in the kitchen and start dinner so that it’s ready when your spouse gets home. And for those ladies who don’t cook, the least you can do is get in that kitchen and fix your man a sandwich and have it waiting for him when he gets home. Trust me when I say that this little gesture will go a long way and make him feel appreciated.
Your relationship will only be as hard as the two of you make it. If you treat each other with respect and communicate when the other is slacking in whatever area, things won’t reach the point of no return. Sit down and discuss the importance of each other and let them know that you appreciate them and all that they do and life will be so much simpler. Remember the little things that you won’t do, somewhere there is a lady that is more than willing to do.
I will stop this article here and will discuss the problem with these immature men in my next article. While you’re on this blog (time for a not so shameless plug of a video that I found on YouTube) please take a look at the video under the video tab on this site called Mrs. Redds advice for woman called How to Keep a Man and listen the great words of wisdom that she is speaking.