Being engaged is something that most women dream about from the time they are kids and the anticipation only gets stronger the older they get. This anticipation grows exponentially once a woman hits her late 20’s and early 30s, and during this time more ideas pop into her little head. If you ask a woman who isn’t married what her dress will look like, the venue, and what her ring will look like, most women will be able to give you specific details down to the design of the cake. If a man got down on one knee and tied a string around your finger while asking you to marry him, y’all would look at him like he was crazy and may even break up with him. And therein lies the problem!!!
Man from the past, woman from current day
A woman gets an engagement ring and the man and woman both get wedding bands. I will point out the difference in his wedding band and hers is usually a couple of thousand dollars (we will get more in depth with this later). For years and years little girls are programmed to think that the engagement and wedding day is all about them. In reality this isn’t the case and is the start of a lot of the selfish mentality that society has in place today. The engagement is about the two of you making moves to become one and the wedding day is about the two of you becoming one. I wish women’s brains could get upgraded similar to how computer software gets upgrades. This upgrade would remove the 1950 thought process that women have when it comes to engagements, weddings and finances. Included in this upgrade would be the women spending 3 months salary on a man’s jewelry or whatever electronic gadget the man likes as an engagement gift to him. Yeah yeah stop sucking your teeth and rolling your eyes.
Let’s think about this.
Back in the day when women stayed home and cooked, cleaned, and raise the children and the man worked, it was ok for the woman to get the more expensive rings while the man got the little band. I also may point out that there was less divorce and the kids were better mannered back then. But now a day’s women work, make good salaries and are CEOs of companies and so on and so forth. So why are we still stuck in the 50s with the engagement, wedding, and actual married life style. Women want a chivalrous man from back in the day but aren’t willing to do the stuff women did back then. It seems like after the burning Bras burnt out so did the women taking care of the home and became the start of women’s selfishness. Fast forward to today and there is too much emphasis placed on the misguided and media induced ideas of what engagements stands for instead of the focus being on the relationship.
Bigger isn’t always better
I’m willing to bet that more than a few of you read that section title and laughed, rolled your eyes, or thought something that I can’t write in the article but I digress (I like saying that so you will see a few articles on here with me digressing). In this day and age people still have in their minds that a man should still be spending 3 months of his salary on a ring. This thought process is dumb and is one of the reasons people are still in debt for years after getting married (that combined with the dream wedding, but we will get to that later). Now if a man has it to spend then that is fine, stupid but fine. But in most cases a man doesn’t have it to spend and should be putting that money on the bills that he racked up partying and vacationing with his boys and/or vacationing with the soon to be fiancée. Now back to the point of this section.
Some women’s brains are wired to think that the bigger the ring, the bigger his love is for her. This is one of the most absolutely stupid thoughts that a woman can have and if you thought that before you should go to counseling before you walk down that isle. Then there are the women who like to show off and only want the ring to be huge so that it makes their friends jealous or just show off in general. This type of person always says hello to people doing the beauty pageant wave with her left hand. Some woman would rather have a ring that is not the best clarity and VVS2 that is 1 1/2 carrot instead of a ring that is a half carrot, VVS1, C class and cost two – three times that of the other one. This type woman is more concerned about what other people think and would rather have a ring that is bigger and cost less because people may think the smaller ring means he doesn’t care as much.
$50,000 dollar fantastic wedding and back to the apartment
Now onto the actual wedding and the idiotic thoughts that make up this day. Why in the hell would you show off to a bunch of friends and family and make a great memory for everyone while wasting $50,000. A smarter move would have been to use that 50K for a down payment for a house and have the wedding in your new home followed by a cookout. How about just keeping it small and simple. Once again, the issue here is people like to show off and try to out do what someone else has done. Weddings are a worst financial decision than buying a new car. At least with a car, it may lose its value but you can trade it in or sell it to get something new. Well, I guess you can do that to with your spouse but this is a topic I will handle at a later date.
People, the size of the ring or the money you spend on your wedding do not equate to how much you love one another. So, to put things in perspective, would you rather have a faithful man who put a string on your finger that is home and provides for you in all areas and loves you to no end or a man who put a $100,000 ring on your finger that has a wondering eye, cheats, and is never home.
Get your priorities straight people and remember when it comes to a ring or wedding all that is needed is the two of you and your love…