In this hustle and bustle world that we live in, a lot of parents CHOOSE not to make time to help their kids with their homework. That’s right I said CHOOSE!!! As parents we have a duty to spend time with our kids and do whatever is necessary to help them become as successful as possible in the future. When it comes to learning, it seems like a lot of parents and society forget that “class doesn’t end when a child leaves school.”
It’s the teacher’s job to teach them, not mine
It hurts me to the core every time I hear a parent say that “it is up to the teacher to teach” or “the teacher should have taught you that in school.” Parents, if you have ever said either one of these then you need to reevaluate your entire thought process. I say this because if you don’t recognize that you are the most important teacher in your children’s lives then you don’t deserve to watch them grow or take credit if they somehow become successful without your help. Yes, the teacher gives them the schoolwork and foundation on how to do the work but it’s up to you ,the parent, to drill the work ethic, proper study habits, and discipline into them.
Teaching isn’t just about school work. Teaching is also about grooming respectful, appreciative, and fearful children. Parents, the time you spend with your children shows them how they should act as an adult. A lot of the problems that most children have today are that the adults that are supposed to show them the correct way are still acting like disrespectful children themselves. On top of that, children today don’t know how to properly express themselves and keep their feelings bottled up inside until it’s too late and they blow up. Their parents are too busy dealing with their own BS to teach the kids the importance of how to communicate.
When the parent does take some time to communicate with their kids, they spend the entire time talking to them instead of having a conversation with them. Another issue that children have today is that they don’t have a sense of what a consequence is. A lot of the times this problem exists because the parents were too busy trying to be their friend instead of teaching them right from wrong.
The jails are full of teenagers who weren’t disciplined as children that now have to be disciplined by judges and Correction Officers. Most of this is because these immature or ignorant parents don’t realize that “class doesn’t end when a child leaves school” but also that teaching their children how to function as respectful people in society starts with them.
Society is forcing parents to raise a bunch of punks
Now let me start this section off by saying that it’s not just the parents that are failing our children, it’s also the school system and society that is making it hard for the good parents to take control of their kids. Society says it’s wrong for parents to discipline their children when they act up but say that it’s okay for police and judges to hand out discipline. Society wants to hold the parents responsible when the child becomes a criminal but took away the parents power which could have set the child on the correct path before the criminal acts got started.
Society is no longer “the village” that raises children, now society is a group of people that would rather video tape children doing wrong instead of correcting them. Society took GOD out of school because a few were offended and now the schools have gone straight to Hell. Schools use to be a place where all you worried about was if your children were prepared to take their tests but now you fear for their lives and want to send them to school in a bullet proof vest.
Schools have a “No Tolerance Rule” and say that it is to prevent bullying (a term which is misused and overused). Calling someone “four eyes” because they wear glasses or “train tracks” because they have braces is not bullying (teach your kids this simple comeback… hmm hmm repeat after me “YOUR MOTHER”). That is called cracking or snapping, but make sure you tell your kids that if they reply with “YOUR MOTHER” the other person may want to fight them. Bullying is when someone takes a kids lunch money every day. Bullying is when someone threatens the smaller kids and torments them every day. Bullying is when a group of kids join evil forces and pick, rob, or beat up the book smart but street dumb kids… but I digress.
The “No Tolerance Rule” pretty much states that if Bobby punches Jerry in the face and Jerry defends himself and punches Bobby back, then both Bobby and Jerry get suspended from school. This rule (in my not so humble opinion) is teaching kids that “you’re damned if you do and you’re damned if you don’t” meaning that if you don’t fight back, you keep getting punched in the face and if you do protect yourself, you still get screwed by the school. I have heard kids say that if they fight back then they will get in trouble. The “No Tolerance Rule” is teaching good kids to become victims. Then on top of that you have schools fighting for state or federal money so the higher ups tie the teacher’s hands and make them teach the children only what is needed to pass the state tests.
The teaching is being removed from schools and is now being replaced with state test preparation. All this does is put the children in poorer school zones farther behind then those schools in a more affluent area. These kids are stuck in a never ending cycle of playing catch up that will continue all the way to college, if they are fortunate enough to get accepted to one. There is little to no creativity left when it comes to teacher’s lesson plans due to no fault of their own but the impact of this on the student is exponential.
As parents and society we are failing our youth and need to get back to the basics by bringing back some of the “old school” discipline and teachings. We need to continue to remind each other that “class doesn’t end when a child leaves school.” We need to teach kids to positively express themselves and not hold things in until they bust. If you won’t talk to your children about right and wrong and teach them that there are consequences for their actions, then eventually you will be paying a lawyer to speak on their behalf…
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